12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

Communication Attitudes

According to psychologists, there are 12 communication attitudes that men and women need to change to understand each other better.

Men and women may speak the same language, but that does not mean they understand each other. A study has shown that words and phrases can have different meanings for each of us when we speak. That is why sometimes we cannot communicate without arguing, raising our voice, or throwing pillows.

However, if you are ready to make a mental effort, you can learn to better communicate with you or your partner and avoid long-term misunderstandings, tears, and grudges. It is enough to show a little psychological finesse to solve this problem.

12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed for A Harmonious Relationship

12 Communication Attitudes Of Men And Women That Need To Be Changed For A Harmonious Relationship
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed for A Harmonious Relationship

Here are 12 communication attitudes you have to change for a more harmonious relationship with your boss, a family member, or your better half.

1. Do Not Read Between the Lines

It is proven that women seek more meaning from the messages they exchange with their partners. In other words, they tend to “read between the lines” and attribute values of intimacy and closeness to their partner’s words. Conversely, men are more direct and expect the conversation to be focused on one topic.

Do Not Read Between The Lines

My illustration above is an example of this. If the man says, “we’re playing the semifinal today,” that’s what he’s thinking; he doesn’t mean, “I’d rather be with my friends, you bore me!”

Understanding what the other expects from a conversation in a relationship will help overcome differences. This accurate translation will also allow each member of the couple to feel cherished in the relationship. More information about this is a little further in the article.

2. Men Do Not Seek Advice, Only Listen

Ah! The famous “you’ll never understand… Maybe it would be better to turn it into” you do not understand why?”

Men Do Not Seek Advice, Only Listen

Women tend to view communication to explore their feelings and feel comforted by their partner, which means that they do not necessarily seek a solution. It is instead the journey and the conversation itself that matters to them.

On the other hand, men tend to find clear answers and valuable advice, and they want to give them as quickly as possible. That is why couples have every interest in better understanding what the other is looking for. She wants to give her advice, but she just wants to be heard.

3. Women Appreciate That They Seek to Comfort You

Men act as if they care about her. A man will see a problem that needs to be solved and show interest in his partner by putting his energy into solving this problem for her. This means that he will begin to analyze, explore different problem-solving tactics, and communicate them to her.

Women Appreciate That They Seek To Comfort You
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

In the meantime, the woman will simply look for an attentive listener. The man could significantly improve the relationship by asking her sincere questions to better understand her and make sure she feels like she is being listened to (perhaps through some non-verbal cues).

4. Men Also Appreciate Having Time for Themselves

Men are often accused of being uncommunicative or withdrawn to themselves, and at first glance, this may seem true. But women can have a lot to gain from understanding the reasons for this behavior.

Men Also Appreciate Having Time For Themselves
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

If your partner seems a little isolated, it probably means that he is taking a little break from his problems. These mini-holidays can take the form of a marathon of video games, series, or reading.

Don’t worry, give him some space. And make him feel like everything will be okay by letting him know that you trust him and that he has the situation well in hand.

5. Women Need to Be Clearer About Their Intentions

Women and men are different in the way they say things to each other. Women are somewhat more indirect than men; they tend to avoid frontal accusations and launch allegations instead. It would therefore be better for women to be more specific with their partner and deepen a little more what they are talking about exactly.

Women Need To Be Clearer About Their Intentions
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

For example, instead of saying, “I’m mad at what you said at dinner last night,” a woman will just opt for a sarcastic remark like “maybe you should think about being nicer during our dates.” This can lead to an unnecessary quarrel based on a misunderstanding.

6. Men Have to Make Sure She Knows You’re Listening

Partners differ in their communication styles by verbal responses, physical contact, and eye contact. In general, men do not insist much on re-affirming to their partner that they listen to it through eye contact or other verbal cues like “aha… Oh… hum… Yes…”.

Men Have To Make Sure She Knows You'Re Listening

On the other hand, women emphasize this constant feedback to ensure that both parties are engaged in the conversation.

Oral acquiescence can be very useful if you are a man.

7. Try to See A Task as A Simple Task

Men add a little romance to the task. Women engage by creating a climate of trust, first by speaking and then by participating in the tasks they will accomplish through that trust.

Try To See A Task As A Simple Task
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

Men tend to reject this discussion of confidence and rush directly to the fulfillment of the mission. For example, if they have to work with their boss, they will do it even if they do not like it.

Both sides have everything to gain from stepping back and seeing how their partner behaves and acting with more empathy. They can both have the same goal in mind but different ways to achieve it.

8. Men Often Need to Do Something While They Talk

Men tend to communicate while doing things, and the activity itself is essential to foster the feeling that they can open up emotionally.

Men Often Need To Do Something While They Talk

Women, meanwhile, feel closer when talking – they can do without a secondary activity. If women admit this peculiarity of men, they will understand that their partners need to do something during the discussion of a sensitive topic just to create a better mood.

9. Men Have to Feel Free to Ask for Help

Men may have the impression that asking for help is a reflection of their inability to achieve something. In contrast, for women, offering advice is perceived as a sign of attention to someone else.

To bridge this gap, it may be helpful to be as straightforward as possible about your intentions, rather than letting your partner assume that it is a signal of your weakness.

Men Have To Feel Free To Ask For Help
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

As an example, let’s look at the illustration above. Imagine that he is on his computer and is trying to solve a problem. Don’t just say, “you’re doing it wrong; you need my help. Instead, try saying, “I’ve already had this bug; you want me to look and see if I can fix it?”.

10. Women Realize That Men Are Selective Listeners

Men are so-called “selective listeners.” This point echoes the previous one concerning men who seek to solve problems. They only listen to the time needed to ask for whatever they deem necessary to find a solution.

Women Realize That Men Are Selective Listeners
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

Conversely, women appreciate verbal and non-verbal cues more and maybe offended if these two elements are not present.

You may also like to read: Psychologist’s Advice on Relationship with a Married Man

11. Do Not Let Your Anger Accumulate

Men compartmentalize, while women see each dispute as part of a more extensive set. In other words, men have no problem having a dispute on a given topic and then moving on to another topic without the first one remaining in their heads.

Do Not Let Your Anger Accumulate
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

On the other hand, a woman is likely to postpone her anger to the next point on the list. It may be helpful for both parties to understand that it is not just about letting go or forgetting. In reality, the two members of the couple simply understand the problems and relationships between them differently.

12. Welcome Your Partner’s Communication Style

It is essential to recognize that different people (regardless of gender) have different styles of communication. Some may be more committed communicators, be ready to take on challenges, and be direct in their contact.

Partner'S Communication Style
12 Communication Attitudes of Men and Women That Need to Be Changed

Others may be more affiliated communicators, which means they like to ask others for advice, listen to all parties, and avoid conflicts.

In short, do not forget that your partner is unique, just like yourself.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges of communication between women and men? Give us your idea, and share your experiences in the comments.